Archive | January, 2012

New Poem- The Diamond Mine

The Diamond Mine

By Umm Qamar

If only you knew,

How I cherish you,

Place you on a pedestal

Above the rest

May you be blessed

As time goes by,

I’m going to try,

To reveal what’s hidden in me,

I want you to see

Your loves labor was not lost,

By Allah, like delicate green moss

I reach towards the light

To gaze upon the visage of my Lord, in all his might

I praise him for the gift of you,

And hold this word to be true,

That paradise lies at your feet,

By the will of Allah, amidst gardens we’ll meet


The Real McCoy

As Salaamu Alaikum,

it’s so good to be back.  I hope I’ve been missed, if not that’s cool too.  It’s been maybe 3 or 4 days since my last posting.   I had an unsettling weekend which was only beneficial in inspiring the previous post.  It was great to use that negative energy to crank out my last rant.  But, when I tried to return to the regular “lemme tell you what I know” blogging mode, I got stuck.  My fingers refused to move, and my brain simply said, “forget you.” And that was that.

Alhamdulilah my brain fart has passed.  I’m stationed back in front of my monitor, ignorantly large cup of tea in my hand, ready to go. 

Since I’ve had a few days to reflect, I’ve come to a tremendous realization.  That is that the Qur’an is the real deal.  Not that I ever doubted it.  It’s just that every time I find myself in a rut, I open it up, start reading, and Wa La!  There, within its pages, lies a wealth of knowledge, a panacea.  There is no ailment known to mankind that Allah hasn’t provided a cure for.  The healing starts between the covers of His book. 

Now I’m going to assume that my Muslim readers already know this.  However if you aren’t Muslim and you happen to be reading, know that this is no hoax.  I don’t pussyfoot around on my blog.  I only speak from my own actualities.  In my last post I complained of small-fry annoyances that irked me over the weekend.  Let me inform you that I’ve been through hellish situations in comparison to those minor irritations.  The wisdom I’ve found in the Qur’an  has pulled me out of them all.  If you don’t believe me try it for yourself.  I challenge you to grab a copy of the Meaning of the Qur’an in your native language and read it.  Approach it with an open mind, and sincere intentions on seeking the truth.  I don’t think you’ll be disappointed.  You know what they say…”ain’t nothing like the real thing baby.”

On that note I’m going to end this.  I’ve challenged you all, and I’d love to see who actually takes me up on it.  Please do comment below or tweet me @UmmQamar and let me know your thoughts.  You don’t stand to lose anything from reading a book.

A Follow up to- “Don’t Judge a Book by it’s Cover”


Alhamdulilah.  This weekend was an epic fail for me.  The last couple of days I’ve been on edge, to say the least.  I’ve been tempted to unleash a wild torrent of emotions upon certain individuals.  They shall remain nameless. 

Some people can get under your skin if you allow them to.  This is where sabr (patience) is a vital tool in helping you keep your cool.  Never give a person  the power to get you out of your character.  More importantly don’t let Shaitan succeed in his mission.  If you become irate and act irrationally only you will be held accountable for your actions. 

Nevertheless, it is common knowledge that humans aren’t infallible.  We all make mistakes, and we all have character flaws, Muslims included.  Yes, that’s right, we Muslims are indeed humans.  I’ve come across plenty of Muslims that behave so treacherously you could not pay me to believe they were upon the Sunnah, even if it was stamped on their foreheads.  I say this to illustrate my point.  You cannot judge an entire group of people

Fair and Balanced Judgment- Photo courtesy of renjith krishnan

according to the actions of a few.  If the actions of a few bad apples spoke for us all, Islam wouldn’t be the fastest growing religion in the world to date. 

So back to the annoyances I was plagued with this past weekend.  I forgive them for their misdeeds.  However I’m having difficulty trying to convince myself that I should take naseeha (advice) from such people.  I’m only responsible for following the Qur’an and Sunnah to the best of my abilities.  I refuse to blind follow any man, especially one who sees absolutely no wrong in himself.  Brothers and sisters , let us remember to check ourselves and our families first, before we deal out advice to others.

The Beauty of Faith

“Mommy how do you build a house?”

There it was, the perfect opportunity for me to finally say something profound and memorable to my son.  Every parent wants to be thought of as wise and knowledgeable by ones children.  So I leaned my head thoughtfully to one side and said…”Well, I guess you have to pour the foundation first.”  Wonk, wonk, I know I should have come a lot harder than that, but the kid put me on the spot.  Although my answer wasn’t as meaningful as I wanted it to be, it sufficed.

Solid foundations are the essential building blocks of life.  There is no situation, structure, or system, that can withstand the blunt force blows dealt to us by life without a firm foundation.  Within our own family units we refer to the strongest member of the household as the “rock” of the family.  The rock is the individual that everyone leans on for support.  Without that individual the family is likely to crumble under the stress of today’s societal woes. If you’re having difficulty  distinguishing who the rock is in your home, don’t worry there is somewhere else you can turn to for solace.

You can look within yourself.  But be careful, introspection is only useful when you have Faith.  I don’t mean the kind of faith that you have in your favorite basketball team or American Idol contestant, I mean faith in God.  The one and only true God.  As far as the Muslim is concerned we should have a clear understanding of Tawheed(to single out Allah as the one and only God worthy of worship).  We attribute complete lordship to Allah.  We direct all acts of worship to Allah, and we recognize that Allah has the most beautiful and unique names and attributes.  When we have a firm grasp on all aspects of Tawheed and actually put those concepts into practice, then we can turn to ourselves for solutions.  A person who is well-rounded in their belief of Allah is better equipped to handle the curveballs that life pitches.

Now, of course I refrained from giving that whole synopsis to my four-year old son.  Something tells me he would have found more pleasure in playing with Thomas the Tank engine, than in listening to mommy babble about faith.  Needless to say I do talk to my son about God.  I try to explain in kid friendly language that God exists, he’s always watching us, and that he should be our only go to guy for supplications.  I’ll let Bob the Builder explain all the ins and outs of home construction, I’m sure he’d do a much better job.

Hadith of the Day

Purity is half of faith...

Photo Courtesy of Juan Gnecco

Today you’re going to get a double dose of Ahadith.  The topic is extremely important to all Muslims and I hope that you all find it beneficial.

Without further ado…

1. Malik recorded that Abu Hurayrah said that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said:

“When a Muslim or the believing servant performs Wudu’ and washes his face, every sin that he looked at with his eyes will depart from his face with the water, or with the last drop of water.  When he washes his hands, every sin that his hands committed will depart from his hands with the water, or with the last drop of water.  When he washes his feet , every sin to which his feet took him will depart with the water, or with the last drop of water.  Until, he ends up sinless.

This has been recorded in Al-Muwatta 1:32 and also by Muslim 1:215

2. Muslim recorded that Abu Malik Al-Ash’ari said that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said:

“Purity is half of faith and Al-Hamdu Lillah (all thanks are due to Allah) fill the Mizan (scale). And  Subhan Allah and Allahu Akbar (all praise is due to Allah, and Allah is the Most Great) fills what is between the heaven and the earth.  As-Sawm (the fast) is a Junnah (shield), Sabr (patience) is a light, Sadaqah (charity) is evidence (of faith) and the Qur’an is proof for, or against you.  Every person goes out in the morning and ends up selling himself, he either frees his soul or destroys it.

This has been recorded by Muslim 1:204

These Ahadtih where taken from Tafsir Ibn Kathir Vol.3

The statement cleanliness is next to Godliness does hold some wieght.  We should take care to guard our Wudu the same way we guard our salah.  It would be a shame to perform salah 5-17  times a day and none of them be excepted due to an invalid Wudu.  In Sha Allah this little note served as a reminder to you all and myself.

As Salaamu Alaikum,

Umm Qamar

Don’t judge a book by it’s cover

Photo courtesy of Teeratas

Or better yet a religion by its (so-called) adherents.

Ok so here’s my rant for the day.  I am so sick and tired of listening to the played out track,  featuring conservative Muslims trying to prove that Islam isn’t related to terrorism.  At this point in the game we should abandon this mission.  It’s futile.  The reality of the situation is, we live in a world infested with haters.

Similar to termites, haters crawl around trying to demolish established structures by gnawing at their foundations.  They come in various forms, each one with his own unique player hating agenda.  There is nothing we can about this infestation of ignoramuses.  Nothing, except mentally block out their foolishness and continue living our lives.  I must say, I pity the fools.

I mean I really sympathize with those poor, poor, gullible organisms.  It’s just too bad they never learned how to discern truth from hyped up propaganda.  It hurts me to my heart to know that some people still believe everything they see and hear in the media.  What a shame.  Somebody should inform those poor, confused, lost souls, that the truth rarely reveals itself on the local 11 o’clock news.  It just doesn’t happen. 

I’m not saying that a group of extreme, delusional, idiots that run around blowing up stuff in the name of Allah don’t exist.  Unfortunately every religion harbors extremists.  What I do know,  is that Islam doesn’t propagate acts of terrorism.  I also know that I’m not going to lose a second of sleep agonizing over feeble-minded folks that assume all Muslims are pyscologically disturbed suicide bombers.  Those that insist on remaining hazed by the fog of media, so much so that they’re willing to alienate an entire religion, should return to grade school and learn how to deduce fact from fabrication.  As for my fellow brethren stop wasting your breath trying to explain how peaceful Islam is.  Use your da’wah to call to Tawheed (the monotheistic belief in God).  If the people don’t get it, that’s their loss.

As Salaamu Alaikum,

Umm Qamar

New Poem

There is no aphrodisiac,

Nor sweet smoky pull of a Newport jack,

That’s able to mimic this sensation,

Upon this yearning, my heart’s been patient,

More than a junkie needs her fix,

I require this bliss.

I need you, but you don’t need me,

Often times I leave you,

But you don’t leave me,

Truly man owns nothing, fool’s gold,

They abuse, abandon, and then leave me cold,

I’m destitute, ragged, they’ve used me,

But Al-Wadud, you’d never do that to me,

And that’s why I’m willing to give you this loan,

Because you’re true to your word, and by you, I’ve never been wronged,

Once a sucker for love, I needed that,

But since I’ve found truth, falsehood, I’m leaving that

No need to feed a fire, for which man is a fuel,

Unloose these shackles; I’m no longer a fool

Just a side note to the reader:  if you find yourself heartbroken, replace that object of affection with the complete love of Allah.  Fill your heart with His remembrance and you’ll never be betrayed.

I admit it…I’m an imposter

Devil's Pie (photo courtesy of graur codrin)

I know you all thought I was righteous.  What with all my naseeha, and Hadith of the Day posts you probably envisioned me to be a saint.  But guess what?  I have issues.

That’s right I said it, I have major character flaws.  You could even go as far as to say i’m a sinner.  Gasp!  My lord, shut the front door.  Umm Qamar is a sinner?  Yes I am, and so are you.  So hop off your righteous pedestals for a moment and hear me out.

Yesterday I finally did it.  I told my boyfriend of 3 years that it was over.  Finite.  Now, obviously I know that dating doesn’t exist in Islam.  You’re either married or you’re not.  That’s where my sin comes in.  Take note, I’m a still a wet behind the ears, fresh off the Jahiliyah boat, revert.  Islam is not entirely new to me, as I was raised as a Muslim.  However, I did go through a tumultuous , dark phase in my life,  where I strayed dangerously from the Siratul Mustaqueem.  It’s only through His unconditional mercy, that I was able to grasp a hold of the rope of Allah.  And this time around you’re going to have to hack my hands off this rope with a pick axe to detach me from Islam.

I’ve come too far and have been through too much, to let Shaitan hold my heart captive again.  That illicit relationship I spoke of, is the remnants of a life in bondage.  I was a slave to my own desires. In truth, having a boyfriend was a small slice of the devil’s pie I once feasted on.  Shaitan really did a number on me.  He made the dunya seem so appetizing to me. I wanted none other than t0 indulge in the ephemeral fantasies of this life.

That, my brothers and sisters is why I’m qualified to advise you as I do now.  Not because I’m so knowledgeable, but because I’ve delved deep into the ugly side of life.  I know from experience that nothing is more satisfying than worshipping Allah.  So when I come on here talking that talk of how we should  restrain ourselves from loving this world too much, you all should understand that I’m speaking sincerely from the depths of my heart.

Written with love,

By Umm Qamar, a humble servant of Allah